Monday, January 31, 2005

A Mother's View on a Woman's Right to Choose

I am a mother and this is my story about the right to choose. I am a mother of two beautiful smart kids... A daughter 11 and a son almost 17.

About a year ago I found myself in a very difficult situation. I was 37 years old, had just moved cross country from Florida to Minnesota to start a new life. I should qualify this story, first of all, by saying that I have cervical cancer and no health insurance. I need a hysterectomy and I don't have the 40 grand to do this thing on my own. I was diagnosed 3 years ago, when I had health insurance, and underwent the treatment for it, but the tumor reappeared after the treatment. Unfortunately after I lost my insurance.

So back to the story. After moving to Minnesota, I discovered to my horror that I was pregnant. I was told by doctors that I could not get pregnant, but despite Depo Provera and the doctors opinions of not being able to concieve, I found myself pregnant. I was 20 weeks pregnant by the time I found out. Because having a cervical tumor causes bleeding all the time. I had no idea I was pregnant.

I was faced with the most difficult choice of all. I have no insurance and would be thrown to the mercy of the welfare system and the doctors they would choose or to find a doctor to do a late term abortion, no easy task. I consulted a doctor where I lived and discovered that the chances were very real that I would bleed to death if I carried this pregnancy any longer. So I was faced with the decision to terminate the pregnancy or carry this pregnancy and die. That was very a difficult choice for me, the hardest choice for me. But I did what I thought was right. Put yourself in my place , Can you imagine that choice? Death was a real possiblity for me and a very slow death.

I chose to find a doctor. I found a doctor, a heroine that has been a women's rights advocate for decades and marched with Dr. King... I endured a lengthy procedure that DID NOT INVOLVE SCISSORS... despite what the right wing christian crazies would have you believe it was not like what they tell you, nothing like it. I chose to save my own life instead of bleeding to death.

Roe v. Wade is one of the most important pieces of women's rights legislation ever enacted. I truly believe with every fiber of my being, I would not be here typing this blog entry if women did not have the right to choose.

I chose to live to fight for every woman's right to make the choice I did.

I am a mother and this is my story.



26 Comments:

At 1/31/2005 8:13 PM , Blogger ProgressivePatriot said...

I am sorry about your ordeal. You presented a very good example of why Roe v Wade is important.
The christians and crazies of the right-wing need to endure this situation then, maybe they would grow a brain.

Keep your chin up, Kynd!!

 
At 1/31/2005 9:42 PM , Blogger Strykeforce Badgers said...

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At 1/31/2005 9:53 PM , Blogger ProgressivePatriot said...

No links to right-wing propaganda.

 
At 1/31/2005 9:59 PM , Blogger KyndCulture said...

One person's miracle is another person's death... Sorry not on the same wavelengh.

 
At 2/01/2005 5:51 AM , Blogger yada said...

didn't you know Stryke, you have to go somewhere else if you want to exercise your right to free speech. This blog doesn't allow that.

 
At 2/01/2005 7:13 AM , Blogger Michael Moore-on said...

While sad, I think you'll find that 99.9% of pro-lifers accept that when the mother's life is in danger abortion is sometimes neccessary. Unfortunately you are the exception, not the rule.

 
At 2/01/2005 7:28 AM , Blogger ProgressivePatriot said...

If the pro-lifers were to get their way, Kynd would not have been able to make the choice she made.

 
At 2/01/2005 7:31 AM , Blogger ProgressivePatriot said...

Babs,
You can comment away if you like but, no links to right-wing propaganda....it's the rule. Very few of us on the left are interested in the right-wing view. I use to read some of thier stuff but, no longer.

 
At 2/01/2005 7:50 AM , Blogger Michael Moore-on said...

Lib, your wrong. The overwhelming majority of us agree that when the mother's life is in danger, abortion is neccessary. Very few have the opinion you express.

 
At 2/01/2005 8:28 AM , Blogger ProgressivePatriot said...

But, the "majority" of you will make it illegal under any circumstance.
What do you think the debate is all about? Roe v Wade needs to be left intact and maybe you could counter the crap that is spread by the right-wing and explain this to your side. Otherwise, all your side is doing is essentially advocating pain and suffering.

 
At 2/01/2005 9:14 AM , Blogger Michael Moore-on said...

Given the circumstances as presented by the author (kyndculture) it most certainly would be an exception. You're stepping out of your realm and into mine now. There are other exceptions; Rape, Incest, age, etc... What I and most of us "righties" oppose is callous willful destruction of a baby simply because mom has $400. There are alternatives.

 
At 2/01/2005 10:24 AM , Blogger ProgressivePatriot said...

Ahhhh...now we are getting somewhere. Your statement on alternatives is a liberal point-of-view. The right-wing point of view is outright illegalization...no alternatives. I hear it all the time from the righties.
Without Roe v Wade.....there are no alternatives short of, going to another country.
What about a 12 or 13 year-old girl?? Would you force her to carry a child to term for some immature behavior? Or would you force her to have the child and destroy 2 lives? Just another valid point to consider.

 
At 2/01/2005 12:03 PM , Blogger Michael Moore-on said...

If you'll check the post above I mentioned age. I am by no means considered liberal, the exceptions I list are considered conservative by the left. Free and unfettered abortions on demand (that we have right now) I would imagine are the exact opposite of the extreme right view of absolutely no abortions. The extremism seems to be on the left.

 
At 2/01/2005 1:41 PM , Blogger Amy said...

Kynd,
You are fabulous, girl. Excellent points.
Amy

 
At 2/01/2005 5:39 PM , Blogger KyndCulture said...

Amy, Thank you. That was not an easy blog entry to make. But it seems timely.

And Michael, if you are saying there are exceptions then that is a very liberal view. The right wing wasn't to overturn Roe v. Wade, that means no exceptions.

 
At 2/02/2005 5:40 AM , Blogger Michael Moore-on said...

Kynd, if you agree that abortions on demand are wrong, then you are expressing a very conservative view. By "on demand" I mean any mother with $400 in her hand and "inconvenience" in her heart. It seems there must be room for a compromise that would save thousands of lives each month.

 
At 2/02/2005 6:29 AM , Blogger ProgressivePatriot said...

Aborttions on demand are none of our business....we don't 'own' the woman's right to choose what she wishes to do with her body.
Now, at what point of gestation are you considering the developing fetus a 'life'?

 
At 2/02/2005 6:32 AM , Blogger ProgressivePatriot said...

OOps, I need to know how you feel about Terry Schiavo, the woman who is in a vegetative state who's husband is trying to remover her feeding tube so that she will starve to death.
Just go along with me here....I have a point to make.

 
At 2/02/2005 7:10 AM , Blogger Michael Moore-on said...

Then our debate is essentially what it has always been, the needless destruction of life by sucking it into a sink verses alternatives to death such as adoption. I believe life starts at conception. Women, even staunch pro-choice supporters, call any child they intend to keep "my baby" from day one, and any child they intend to kill, a "fetus", "zygote" or any other impersonal name that makes them feel better.

As for your second request on Terry Schiavo, as I understand it her husband wants to remove the tube so she dies, while Florida is trying to keep her alive. It is my belief to always err on the side of life, I would keep her alive, for a host of reasons. I'll wait to see where you're going on this one...

 
At 2/02/2005 8:14 AM , Blogger ProgressivePatriot said...

My choice isn't for sucking it into a sink, as you say. But, the life at conception is not conducive to actual life. The human fetus is the largest known obliagte parasite, relative to humans. It cannot survive on it's own. Like Terry Shiavo, it is hooked to a feeding tube, in order, to maintain it's life.
Back to conception. This is not the time, at which, human life exists. It takes approx. 30 days for the nervous system to develop and at the end of that time the brain develops. The earliest reflex action observed was in the lip of a 7 week old fetus, a fetus with no brain. On the other hand, the brain is not developed enough for normal human functions to exist until about 5 months.
The process of gestation isn't that complicated if one would research it. The pro-lifers like to show tiny baby feet claiming they are from a 10-week old fetus and other sordid pictures of fetal development that are falsely associated with a certain developmental period.
Until the misinformation by the pro-lifers ceases, our world will be filled with people who can only assume as true the lies they are fed.
FYI, During my work on my Masters in Biochemistry, I did study the effects of Chromium II, IV & VI and methylviolegen(paraquat) on cell development using Beta-galactosidase as a spectral marker on DNA mutation.

 
At 2/02/2005 11:39 AM , Blogger Michael Moore-on said...

Lib, do you have kids? The day your son or daughter was born was it able to live on its own? Did the little parasite need you to take care of it? Or was it able to feed and shelter itself? Semantics suck don't they? Gestation, fetal development, Beta-galactosidase, and DNA mutations mean squat. Boil the eqation down, in the end my little human lives and yours doesn't. His or her potential is never known, he or she is, as distasteful as it sounds, sucked into a sink.

 
At 2/02/2005 2:41 PM , Blogger ProgressivePatriot said...

Guess you didn't read my previous entry on father's rights.
What it boils down too is that you don't understand or even come close to understanding the science of life.
And that is the fundamental problem with conservatives....they refuse to get educated.

 
At 2/13/2005 8:45 PM , Blogger Ol Cranky said...

". . .Gestation, fetal development, Beta-galactosidase, and DNA mutations mean squat. Boil the eqation down, in the end my little human lives and yours doesn't. His or her potential is never known, he or she is, as distasteful as it sounds, sucked into a sink."Moore-on: This argument is inconsistent with your previous post allowing abortion of a healthy embryo in the case of rape and even a less than healthy embryo in the case of incest. Why would these terminations be acceptable but not the termination of an embryo with Patau's or Edward's that, if it makes it to term with a live birth, is destined to die (after living a less than comfortable life) within a year?

 
At 2/18/2005 6:52 PM , Blogger Michael Moore-on said...

Cranky, my apologies, I thought this thread was dead. You must be some kind of philosophy major. I personally have exceptions, they are mentioned above. They are my personal and only exceptions. They are inconsistent, and that's fine with me.

 
At 2/18/2005 6:52 PM , Blogger Michael Moore-on said...

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At 10/01/2005 3:58 PM , Blogger Mike said...

money+
is easy. money+

 

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